With the horrors of what is happening around our country and our government passing bills to allow late-term abortion, it is important we stand up for every life. The life of every baby matters to our Heavenly Father. The life of every mom matters to the One who created her.
We often hear people say, “I wish they would just give those babies to me. I would take them all.” Or we see pictures of those holding up signs outside the abortion clinics saying, “Don’t abort your baby. We will adopt him!” However, the biggest need is not for more families willing to adopt babies. Many people do not realize there are between 1 and 2 million families wanting to adopt newborns here in the US. Moms wanting to give up their baby for adoption have the choice of many loving, waiting families.
Pro-life or Pro-birth?
The problem is, so many Christians are not really pro-life, they are pro-birth. While they are busy telling mommas to save their babies, there is a real orphan care crisis in our own backyard. In the US today there are over 420,000 kids in foster care. Over 100,000 kids are currently available for adoption. Studies show that one-third of families in the US have considered adoption, but only 2% have actually done it. When asked why they won’t adopt, most people state it is financially unfeasible. Others don’t want to deal with the trauma an older child has been through.
If Christians truly believe that EVERY LIFE matters to God, the orphan care crisis in the US would cease to exist. We would open our arms to adopt kids when they are 5, 10 or even 15. We would be willing to care for kids with special needs or who have a past of neglect and abuse. Kids are not meant to grow up without a loving family, no matter what has happened in their past or what the extent of their needs. 1 John 3:18 says “Dear children, we must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words.” Adopting a child puts action to our words. It speaks volumes showing the world that EVERY. SINGLE. LIFE. HAS. VALUE.
Fact or Fiction?
It is a myth that adoption through the foster system is expensive. Financially, to adopt through the US foster care system it costs very little, if anything. In many states, a stipend from the state is provided even after the adoption of your child is finalized. There are resources for children adopted through foster care in most states, including health care benefits and college scholarships.
Trauma is a real issue, but it should not be a reason to let these kids grow up without a family. The Church needs to wrap around those who adopt to be the support families need while parenting kids who have been crushed by the weight of abuse and neglect. It is not easy, but it is what we are called to do. There are resources available to families and churches to help them understand the effects of trauma and how to parent kids from hard places. Research also shows healing from trauma can happen through the loving, consistent relationships.
What Can You Do?
There are over 400,000 local churches in the US. It only takes ¼ of the churches with one family willing to adopt one of the 100,000 waiting children for every child to have a family. Let’s stand for life. Every life, born and unborn. Let’s show this world we care, not only for the baby in the womb, but for the kids living without a family to call their own.
In Kentucky alone there are 9,700 kids in foster care and 2,500 children waiting for their forever family. Pray about it and see if God is asking you to open your heart to a child to show him or her that their life matters! OCA is offering Foster Care Information meetings and training sessions to become Kentucky state foster or adoptive parents. Check our calendar here to find out when the next dates are available in your area!