Darren and I brought our son home from Russia at the age of 13 months. Everyone kept telling us, “you’re bringing him home at such a young age, you won’t have any problems.” I wish I had known then what I know now. Sometimes when I look back, I wonder if I hurt my child more than I helped him. I thought I was doing all the right things. After all, it worked with our daughter. Why wouldn’t it work with Andrew?
But trauma, neglect, and the big feelings that come from them don’t know an age.
God Is Sovereign Through Trauma
What do you think of when you hear the word trauma? Most of us think of things like car accidents, or an unexpected loss of a loved one. These things will obviously crush our sense of security and make us feel helpless. But did you know that there are actually six risk factors for the development of emotional and behavioral problems? They include difficult pregnancy, difficult birth, separation/hospitalization at birth, acute trauma, abuse, and neglect.
The good news in this is that God, in His infinite wisdom, made all of us with malleable brains. And we CAN change the outcome for our kids. It doesn’t happen overnight and it takes work and practice on our parts. But, aren’t our kids worth it?
He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. Psalm 91:4
TBRI Training In Kentucky and Southen Indiana
OCA currently has four staff members going through training to become Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) Practitioners. TBRI is an attachment-based, trauma-informed intervention designed to meet the complex needs of vulnerable children. The goal will be to offer TBRI training throughout Kentucky and Southern Indiana.
Most people think that TBRI training is for adoptive and foster parents only. But trauma doesn’t just affect a child at home. It’s all-encompassing. Are you a teacher and wonder why that student in your class is having such a hard time self-regulating their emotions? Are you a childcare worker within a church and wondering why that child shuts down when things get really noisy in your room? And what about you, a patron in a restaurant who is wondering why those parents are under the table comforting their child?