I had the honor this past week to attend the Christian Alliance for Orphans conference located here in Louisville, KY. Throughout the sessions and workshops, a beautiful theme of adoption and redemption was evident: In Brokenness and Beauty, It is Well.
The foster care and adoption journey is intertwined with both brokenness and beauty. On one hand, there’s the deep and aching hurts of our children as they come face to face with pain of abandonment; and on the other hand the pure joy and delight as our children find their way home to a family who loves them. There are times in our journey when our children are struggling with deep pain from past abuse and heartache, but even then, we must be able to find strength from within. Trusting in our Savior and resting in His plan for our children’s lives is never easy in the midst of brokenness, but in those jagged places His strength is made perfect.
During this conference, I was encouraged in my own journey. Almost seven years ago, my husband and I adopted a little girl who had just celebrated her seventh birthday. We traveled to Asia to bring her home. At the time, we had no clue the extent of her mental disability or the pain she held deep inside. Our days, from the very first day, have been filled with much brokenness. At times, I have felt shattered and hopeless. As her mother, I want so desperately to fix and heal her pain. Here I am, so many years later and the journey has not become any easier; even so, I am able to say “It is well with my soul.” The brokenness is not mine to fix. Only in the hands of our Savior can the shattered pieces become something beautiful.
It Is Well
Entering into foster care and adoption is not about fixing a broken system or healing a broken heart; instead, it is about finding God’s beauty in the midst of the brokenness. It is about finding God’s peace and strength when you are at your weakest. God asks us to enter into darkness so His light can shine brighter. He asks us to do difficult things because He loves us so very much. Not only does He love us so much, He loves each and every child with the fiercest and deepest love. How will these children know the God who loves them if we don’t show them? All they know is brokenness-we need to show them the redemption and beauty of the only One who can bring them hope.
Where ever you find yourself on your foster or adoption journey, I pray that you will find strength in the One who called you to follow Him. If you are at the intersection of beauty and brokenness, or if you find yourself in the deepest, darkest place, I pray you will find peace within your soul knowing the One who called you will never leave you alone.
If you need a place to find community with others who understand the unique journey of foster care and adoption, we would love to have you join one of our OCA Connect groups that meet throughout Kentucky. Find one of the locations here.