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“We don’t have a special ability to be foster parents, we saw the need and kids in foster care need parents that are willing to get attached to them.” – Brittany Lind
By: Haley Hisle
God’s spirit truly became more in the Lind family’s lives and they became less. I love that in their story it wasn’t a question about opening their home, it wasn’t something they put on hold because they both knew that there are kiddos out there that need someone to show them the love of Christ. Let’s take a look into their story!
Q: What lead you to becoming a foster parent?
Foster care doesn’t have to be “plan B.” My husband and I did not pursue foster care because of an inability to have biological children. We also didn’t do it because we are special or possess a unique ability to remain unattached from children that come into our home. Our plan from the beginning was to get “too attached” to our son whether he would stay in our home or not. The path of foster care is not safe for the heart but we embarked down this road, and hope to do it again, because there are children who need homes and because we have a Savior who has loved us like this. He willingly laid down his life in order to welcome us into his family forever and though we are imperfect in our love, this is what we want to aim to do for our children. Our road has involved many twists and turns, tears and sleepless nights, but we don’t regret for a moment our decision to venture down this path.
Q: How long has your home been open to placements?
We first opened our home on February 26, 2014. The day after our son was born–although we didn’t know it at the time. We didn’t get the call for him until March 14, 2014.
Q: What advice would you give to Christians who aren’t in a season to Foster to encourage them to support the foster parents at their church?
I’ve been incredibly blessed by a meal from a friend on a busy week of social worker visits, or by friends who took the time to get fingerprinted so they could be approved babysitters. When we got the phone call and needed items right away–people lent us a carseat and stroller, clothes, gave us gift cards to get needed supplies. Prayer, encouragement for the long emotionally taxing road.
Larger group homes may be in financial need to care for the children, or they may have a child in need of a tutor or a counselor. The needs are many and ongoing at every level of the foster care system.
Q: If you have biological children in your home, how does having foster children impact your home?
We haven’t really had to deal with this too much–we had a daughter biologically 8 months after our foster son entered our home and they just became siblings right away-our irish twins. Now they are great buddies–although they do tend to fight quite a bit.:)
We have thought through taking in older children and about how keeping our children safe is our number one priority and so when taking in other children, we have to make sure we are not putting them at risk. For example–if we took in a child that has been abused, would there be risk of them abusing others? These are hard questions that have to be thought through.
Q: What is the most challenging and rewarding thing about being a foster parent?
Foster care is challenging–I say this because adoption/foster care isn’t the ideal situation. It is a result of sin, a result of brokenness and so those who enter into the process of foster care dive headlong in the mess, pain and brokenness of it all. If you care for newborns, you may encounter things like meth and cocaine addiction or fetal alcohol syndrome. You may receive a call saying, “This newborn’s mom has HIV. No one is willing to take her. Will you?”
If you care for older children, you may receive children into your home who have been abused-sexually, physically or emotionally. Some have been neglected and struggle to form healthy relationships or experience developmental delays.
On our road, we have anxiously awaited phone calls after court dates, we braced ourselves to say goodbye to our baby on numerous occasions, we cried over news of birth parents dropping out of rehab and we wept as we watched our little guy’s birth parents kiss him goodbye (for now).
We couldn’t be more grateful that we did not have to say goodbye to our sweet boy—and that we were able to officially make him a part of our family this past September. This is what we, and so many of our friends and family earnestly prayed for.
Yet what we were completely unprepared for is the profound sadness that would also linger in our hearts over the brokenness and pain that accompanies the glorious reality of adoption. For us to receive a son, someone else was losing a son. For us to welcome him in as a part of our family, they had to say goodbye. Though I didn’t give birth to him, this little boy turns to me and says, “Mommy.” This is such sweetness to my ears, but as I looked into the eyes of his birth mother at their last visit, grief filled my heart and painted a vivid picture of the consequences of sin and the destructiveness of addiction. Foster care is hard. But it is also beautiful–we are so grateful for our son and that the Lord has given him to us. Though hard, it is a joy and honor to be able to lay your life down the way Christ has for us, and be a means of bringing about redemption in hard situations here on earth!
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