Adoption FAQ

The process of adopting can be overwhelming. Even before you begin the paperwork, OCA knows you have many questions that need answers. Start here with our Adoption FAQ page. Then swing over to our events page and mark your calendar for our next Adoption Option class or regional seminar, where we’ll give you the full low-down on adoption, and help you take the first steps toward bringing your child home.

Your FAQ about Adoption

Where can I find more information on preparing biological siblings for adoption?

Often children already in the home can help other children adjust to the new environment. Focus on the Family’s book, Thriving as an Adoptive Family, has a chapter that discusses the role and impact on siblings.

What if my family is not fully supportive of my adoption?

Educating Others to Help your Child

How long does a typically adoption usually take?

The average wait for a domestic adoption is less than two years. International adoption typically takes longer depending on the gender of the child and the country the child is adopted from.

Where can I find adoption assistance by State?

The Association of Administrators of the Interstate Compact on Adoption and Medical Assistance (AAICAMA) provides adoption assistance information by state. Click here to discover state policies on adoption assistance and post-adoption services.

What is a Special Needs Adoption through the state?

SNAP children, ages ranging from 8 to 18 years old, are legally available for adoption, and parental rights have been terminated because the parents were unable or unwilling to provide proper care for their children. Many of these children have emotional scars because of abuse, neglect or abandonment. There are currently about 350 SNAP children who are waiting for an adoptive family.

Special needs criteria may include:

  • Physical or mental disability
  • Emotional or behavioral disorder
  • Recognized/documented risk of physical, mental or emotional disorder
  • Member of a sibling group of two or more children in which the siblings are not placed together, previous adoption disruption or multiple placements.
  • African-American child age two or older

To become an adoptive parent of one of these children, there is no fee charged for the adoption. The process starts by calling the Kentucky Adoption and Foster Care Program: 800-928-4303. This program prepares families to face the challenges of adopting children who have been abused and neglected. Families are given the opportunity to meet and talk with other adoptive families and discuss their feelings and concerns.

After a family completes the preparation and is approved to adopt the placement process can begin. The family learns about and meets the child and visits over a period of time to give both the child and the family a chance to get to know one another. When everyone is ready, the actual placement occurs. In many instances, support services for adopting include medical, counseling services, financial assistance, legal assistance and free tuition to Kentucky State Colleges and Technical Schools. Support by other adoptive parents is also available.

Why are some countries more expensive to adopt from than others?

Here is a great breakdown of wait times for adopting through the different options and costs associated (Country breakdowns included as well)

Latest Adoption Cost and Wait Time Data

Will the family receiving an adoption grant be taxed on the money they raise through fundraisers?

The quick answer is ‘NO’.  Lifesong is approved by the IRS to give tax deductions to all donors and to pay adoption expenses / receipt for adoption receipts to families.  The donations passed on to pay families invoices/receipts are not considered income.  The families should note that funds raised through fundraising / matching grants cannot be claimed as their out of pocket expenses for their federal adoption tax refund.  They can only claim loans and their own money spent for that. –LifeSong For Orphans, Rich Metcalfe

Fundraising Ideas & Adopting without Debt

What is the success rate for Embryo Adoptions?

According to the Center for Disease Control, the embryo adoption national average pregnancy rate is 43 percent and the national average live-birth rate is 35 percent. These statistics are from a database of all U.S. assisted reproductive technology clinics.

The National Embryo Donation Center’s overall pregnancy rate per transfer is 57 percent and the live-birth rate is 50 percent. Not all embryos survive the freeze/thaw process, and thawing of your selected embryos may not lead to a transfer. However, this may still offer the greatest hope of achieving pregnancy.

Is Embryo Adoption Ethical?

Frequently Asked Questions about Embryo Adoption, from our friends at Nightlight Christian Adoptions.

Adoption Questions

How does Embryo adoption work?

Watch this short video for an overview of embryo adoption.

Adoption Questions

Does the carrying mother of an embryo adoption need to take medicine and shots similarly to IVF treatments? Please, explain this process further.

Every woman is different. Her doctor will assess her body and determine what is best for her. If a woman’s cycle is irregular, the doctor may prescribe birth control to regulate her cycle dates. She will usually start on this one or two months before they hope to have a transfer date, but she can start this at any time. Sometimes the doctor prescribes Lupron to suppress a woman’s own cycle, but not always. Lupron suppresses a woman’s hormones so that she won’t ovulate. With a frozen embryo transfer it doesn’t matter if a woman ovulates since embryos, and not sperm will be transferred. If your cycle is fairly regular, you may be able to skip these parts of the process, but it is really dependent on what you and your doctor decide.

If the doctor feels it is needed, he will prescribe progesterone. Usually progesterone is prescribed in the form of shots; however, it can also be a suppository or an oral medication. Progesterone shots usually start a couple of weeks before the transfer. As the transfer date approaches, she will go in to see how her body is responding. During an ultrasound, the medical team will look at the lining of the uterus to determine if the uterus lining is thick enough to receive the embryos. The transfer date may be pushed back if her uterus lining is not thick enough.

Typically embryos are thawed the day of the transfer or two days before the transfer. Blastocyst embryos are thawed day of the transfer. Day 3 embryos may be thawed two days before to let them develop to day 5, or they can be transferred on the same day as the thaw, depending on the doctor’s preference.

The frozen embryo transfer (FET) procedure itself is simple and takes just minutes. You can watch a short video about the process here. During the FET, the RE will place a thin catheter through the woman’s cervix and into the uterus. He’ll then attach to the catheter a syringe that holds the embryo, and inject the embryo into the catheter. If all goes according to plan, the embryo then attaches to the uterine lining and two weeks later, you find out that you’re pregnant.

The woman continues progesterone injections through the pregnancy test. If it’s positive, she will likely continue progesterone treatments for another 6 weeks to help sustain the pregnancy.

Amy Baldwin, Nightlight Christian Adoptions

Adoption Questions

Do adopting couples pay per embryo or per batch of embryo?

In the Snowflakes Program, the adopting couple would receive all the embryos that a genetic family has remaining, on average that is 4 or 5, but sometimes a family has more, some families have less. Fees are for services, not for embryos.

Amy Baldwin, Nightlight Christian Adoptions

Is it statistically proven that a women must have the FET 3 times before she will become pregnant.

No, some of the couples in our program get pregnant on the first attempt, others it takes two or three – sometimes more. It varies from family to family. However, we generally find that couples will achieve pregnancy within the first three FET cycles.

Amy Baldwin, Nightlight Christian Adoptions

How will a child we adopt affect our biological children?

Although you can never fully protect your family, learning as much as possible about the child you are adopting and the trauma they have experienced will make a large impact. Before the child comes home, be sure to have conversations with your biological children about the process and the upcoming changes. The children already in the home can be very helpful to the new child as they adjust to their new environment.

What is a typical cost of adoption through foster care?

Adopting through foster care is typically less than $2,500.

What is a typical cost of a domestic adoption?

The cost of domestic adoption ranges based on agency and the state, and can be anywhere from $8,000 to $40,000. The average is around $23,000.

What is a typical cost of an international adoption?

The cost varies by country and adoption agency but typically ranges between $25,000 and $43,000. Click here for an overview of international adoption costs and an example breakdown of potential costs.

How will I pay for my adoption costs?

There are numerous ways to gain funds to pay for your adoption. OCA offers financial grants and loans you can apply for, here.  There are also several online resources that you can use to rally support. Adoption doesn’t have to mean going into debt! Adopt without debt.

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